7 signs your attachment style is quietly hurting your relationships

Most relationship pain is not about the argument you keep having. It is about a pattern that was shaped long before that person was in your life. This guide names seven of the most common signs — gently and without judgement.

• You apologise even when you've done nothing wrong
• You need constant reassurance that everything is okay
• You feel anxious when your partner doesn't reply quickly
• You pick fights just to feel some kind of response
• You shut down completely when things feel too intense
• You feel responsible for other people's emotions
• You lose yourself — your opinions, your needs — in relationships

Recognising yourself in these is not something to be ashamed of. It is the beginning of change.