We had stopped really talking. A few sessions in, we were hearing each other again, and the house finally feels calm.
I had been fighting the same reaction in myself for years. Now I understand where it comes from, and that changed how I respond.
I went in skeptical. One honest conversation later, I saw the whole situation differently, and I had one clear thing to do next.
We did this work before getting married. We started our marriage already knowing how to repair after a fight, not just how to avoid one.
Vandana names the thing you cannot quite see yourself, and she says it so kindly that it never stings.
The session felt like a deep breath. I left lighter, with one next step instead of a hundred anxious ones.